Latest Posts

  • Should You Take Your Narcissistic Parent to Family Therapy?
    Should You Take Your Narcissistic Parent to Family Therapy?
    In cases of severe narcissism, therapy may play out in one of these 5 ways. If you grew up with a narcissistic parent, you may still be thinking you can fix or change the relationship in some way so you can get some of your...
    Read more
  • 6 Steps to Self-Acceptance
    6 Steps to Self-Acceptance
    It's the gift to give yourself this season. ‘Tis the season for gift giving. It’s also the time of year when people ask you what gifts you want this holiday season. As you think about what you might want a loved one to give you,...
    Read more
  • Mixed Emotions on Mother’s Day?
    Mixed Emotions on Mother’s Day?
    Adult children of narcissists beware! Mother’s Day is this country’s most widely observed holiday, celebrating an unassailable institution. A mother is commonly envisioned as giving herself fully to her children, and our culture still expects mothers to tend to their families unconditionally and lovingly, and...
    Read more
  • Who are You Separate from your Narcissistic Relationships?
    Who are You Separate from your Narcissistic Relationships?
    Why individuation is a key to your mental health Separation-individuation is an important aspect of becoming who you really are. In developmental psychology, it is considered key to fully becoming an adult. This article will discuss what it is and why it is important and...
    Read more
  • Understanding Narcissistic Injury
    Understanding Narcissistic Injury
    Narcissists do not forgive or forget! Narcissistic injury is often widely misunderstood. Many people believe it relates to the trauma experienced by the victims of narcissists. But instead, it is what is experienced by the narcissist when they lose or are abandoned or criticized. According...
    Read more
  • How to Talk to Others About Coronavirus Fears
    How to Talk to Others About Coronavirus Fears
    What is dismissive positivity and why is it toxic? There is a concept called dismissive positivity that has recently been popularized by a Miami-based psychotherapist named Whitney Goodman. Dismissive positivity is a cheery, positive response to someone telling you about their distress or pain. It’s...
    Read more
  • COVID-19 Stress: It’s OK to be Human
    COVID-19 Stress: It’s OK to be Human
    Six Mental Health Tips for Coping This is obviously a stressful, traumatic time for all, whether it is economic, medical, mental health, or family issues when on lockdown. When we experience trauma, we have feelings that must be dealt with and processed. This is not...
    Read more
  • Authoritarian Parenting and Polarization in Politics
    Authoritarian Parenting and Polarization in Politics
    Does parenting style influence how we vote? How we view the treatment of children may be connected to our choices in political candidates. I certainly do not claim to be a political analyst and I am not making a political statement, but there is some...
    Read more
  • What’s the Recipe for a Healthy Love Relationship? Twelve Tips for Finding the Right Match!
    What’s the Recipe for a Healthy Love Relationship? Twelve Tips for Finding the Right Match!
    Are you searching for love? Are you in a love relationship, but wonder if it is healthy? I can’t keep track anymore of the countless online dating sites ranging from “people who love dogs” to “clown dating,” to “smell dating,” (seriously?), and the various Match,...
    Read more
  • Why are Mean People So Powerful?
    Why are Mean People So Powerful?
    Are you baffled by narcissists who act mean? Do you have narcissists in your life who are just plain mean? Do you ask yourself, “how can someone be so mean?” Do you wonder sometimes how they even come up with their aggressive and vengeful antics...
    Read more
  • Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Raised by a Narcissistic Mother?
    Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Raised by a Narcissistic Mother?
    Is Mother’s Day a difficult day for you? It’s a natural human feeling to long for a mother who loves everything about you absolutely and completely. It’s normal to want to lay your head on your mother’s breast and feel the security and warmth of...
    Read more
  • Lack of Accountability in Narcissists
    Lack of Accountability in Narcissists
    Narcissists lie and re-write history, but why? One of the most crucial characteristics of a morally centered, responsible, and mentally healthy individual is the ability to be accountable for one’s actions and feelings. This is how we grow and learn from our mistakes as well...
    Read more
  • Divorcing a Narcissist
    Divorcing a Narcissist
    This will not be your normal break-up…believe me! When Ellen entered her first therapy session with me, she held a card in her hand that she’d printed out from Somecards.com. Without speaking, she handed it to me. It read, “We divorced for religious reasons. My partner thought he was...
    Read more
  • Narcissists Use “Gaslighting” to Control and Abuse
    Narcissists Use “Gaslighting” to Control and Abuse
    What is gaslighting and are you a target? If you are dealing with a narcissist in your life or grew up with a narcissistic parent, you may have experienced “gaslighting.” It is a form of verbal and psychological abuse that is insidiously cruel, with the...
    Read more
  • How Does Being Raised by a Narcissistic Parent Affect Children?
    How Does Being Raised by a Narcissistic Parent Affect Children?
    Narcissists raise children who suffer from crippling self-doubt Why does it matter if a parent is a narcissist, how does that hurt a child? You may be asking this question if you are one of the following: a person who is co-parenting with a narcissistic...
    Read more
  • He Loves Me… He Loves Me Not…Can a Narcissist Truly Love?
    He Loves Me… He Loves Me Not…Can a Narcissist Truly Love?
    Empathy is the necessary ingredient for giving and feeling love. Having compassion and empathy for another means to hear, be with, suffer with, and try to get in the shoes of the other person. When this is done, the other person feels seen, heard, and...
    Read more
  • Sexual Assault Stories Can Traumatize the Public
    Sexual Assault Stories Can Traumatize the Public
    Finding balance in disclosing sexual abuse While I am most certainly an advocate for sexual assault victims, and have specialized in this field of mental health work for 30 plus years, I feel compelled to share what many of my clients and colleagues have revealed...
    Read more
  • Will I Be Good Enough for the Holidays?
    Will I Be Good Enough for the Holidays?
    8 tips for dealing with criticism from narcissistic families One of the painful trademarks of the narcissistic family is constant criticism and judgment. In their presence, one can feel insecure, put down, and typically not valued as a person. When around narcissists, if you really...
    Read more
  • What if Your Parents Were Just Not That Into You?
    What if Your Parents Were Just Not That Into You?
    The lifelong effects of childhood neglect If you were emotionally or physically neglected as a child, it can be a difficult journey to heal. Neglect can be a hard thing to put your finger on, especially if it was emotional. Neglected children often don’t realize...
    Read more
  • How Does A Narcissist Think?
    How Does A Narcissist Think?
    Here is how narcissistic behavior is dangerous and harmful to others Is the word narcissism being over-used and thrown around lightly? Do we need a deeper understanding of narcissistic behavior and why it is harmful and even dangerous? Having studied this disorder for over 25...
    Read more
  • Q&A Between Dr. Karyl McBride and Fotini Mastroianni, a Greek Behavioral Economist, Journalist and Blogger
    Q&A Between Dr. Karyl McBride and Fotini Mastroianni, a Greek Behavioral Economist, Journalist and Blogger
    Below is the English language transcript of the Q&A interview between Dr. Karyl McBride and Fotini Mastroianni, a Greek behavioral economist, journalist and blogger written May, 2017. Q: Is narcissism a mental illness? What are the features of a narcissist? A: Narcissistic Personality Disorder is...
    Read more
  • Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents and Mother’s Day
    Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents and Mother’s Day
    10 Tips to help with emotional triggers and avoid an emotional collapse! In the United States and around the world, Mother’s Day, is certainly one of the most celebrated holidays. It should be a special day to honor mothers and appreciate them for all that...
    Read more
  • Are You Having a Difficult Holiday Week?
    Are You Having a Difficult Holiday Week?
    Five Tips for Keeping Your Sanity in the Season and the New Year How’s your holiday season going? Ready for the New Year? Are you feeling happy and content and ready to move forward? Or are you struggling this week and feeling like the holidays...
    Read more
  • Faces of the Narcissist: The Critic and the Judge
    Faces of the Narcissist: The Critic and the Judge
    Eight tips to protect yourself. Do you have a narcissist in your life? Most everyone knows one or has been involved with one. They may be in your family, work, or social circle. The narcissist may be tolerable or even charming with you until they...
    Read more
  • Narcissists Derail People
    Narcissists Derail People
    How to protect yourself from getting duped by a narcissist What is it about narcissistic behavior that leaves people scratching their heads and wondering what just happened?! A narcissist can derail someone in minutes due to their own issues. It can come out of the...
    Read more
  • The Destructive Force of Narcissistic Injury
    The Destructive Force of Narcissistic Injury
    What is it? How does it affect Leadership and Relationship? Narcissists suffer from what the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders defines as narcissistic injury: “vulnerability in self-esteem which makes narcissistic people very sensitive to ‘injury’ from criticism or defeat. Although they may not...
    Read more
  • Embrace Recovery on Mother’s Day
    Embrace Recovery on Mother’s Day
    Adult children of narcissistic parents in search of peace Mother’s Day in the United States is rapidly approaching. It’s the time of year that my inbox is flooded with questions. What to do? What card to buy? Contact or not? Adult children of narcissistic parents...
    Read more
  • Q&A Sessions Between Dr. Karyl McBride and Author, Tina Swithin
    Q&A Sessions Between Dr. Karyl McBride and Author, Tina Swithin
    Below is the transcript of both Q&A interview sessions between Dr. Karyl McBride and Tina Swithin; family Court advocate, divorce coach and author of four books on divorcing a narcissist. The online Facebook event was held on Sunday, March 13, 2016. Q&A Session: Tina Swithin...
    Read more
  • Radio Talk Show Host Lindsey Ellison Interview w/Dr. Karyl McBride
    Radio Talk Show Host Lindsey Ellison Interview w/Dr. Karyl McBride
    On February 8, 2016, Dr. McBride was interviewed by radio talk show host Lindsey Ellison of Start Over Find Happiness Listen to the mp3 podcast below:      ...
    Read more
  • Five Qualities to Encourage in Your Kids
    Five Qualities to Encourage in Your Kids
    Why Values Are Important in Raising Emotionally Healthy Children I was honored to be asked to give a speech at a National Junior Honor Society awards ceremony for fourth through eighth graders, along with their parents and teachers. My granddaughter, the president, gave me the...
    Read more
  • The Label “Narcissism” is Used Too Loosely Today
    The Label “Narcissism” is Used Too Loosely Today
    What is the real problem with having a narcissist in your life? Is there someone you know who is extremely boastful, self-absorbed, and is found frequently taking selfies or engaging in self-admiration?  If so, do you really care? This seems to be the common understanding...
    Read more
  • Sibling Incest in the News
    Sibling Incest in the News
    Treatment options for sibling incest. Having worked in the child sexual abuse field for 30 some years, I am continually struck with a sense of sadness when yet another family comes forward with admissions of sibling sexual abuse. Rather than judgment it is important to...
    Read more
  • Mother's Day for Those Raised by Narcissistic Parents
    Mother’s Day for Those Raised by Narcissistic Parents
    Cherish your own capacity to love and provide empathy! Mother’s Day is approaching. Is it time to run and hide or stumble into a Hallmark store to desperately search for that empty card that says nothing upon which you simply sign your name? How sad,...
    Read more
  • Introduction to Will I Ever Be Free of You?
    Introduction to Will I Ever Be Free of You?
    Introduction For the past twelve years a yellow sticky note has somehow clung to my refrigerator. It says, “Go After Your Purpose and God Will Give You Your Dream.” I stuck that quote to the fridge when I was writing my first book, Will I...
    Read more
  • Is Your Partner a Narcissist? Here Are 50 Ways to Tell
    Is Your Partner a Narcissist? Here Are 50 Ways to Tell
    An expert's checklist for gauging where you stand. The label narcissist is used loosely these days, typically to indicate someone who is vain and selfish, but the personality disorder and the traits of narcissism run much deeper than this and carry long-term debilitating effects for...
    Read more
  • Do You Feel Not Good Enough?
    Do You Feel Not Good Enough?
    Are you carrying the emotional burden of a dysfunctional family? Are you constantly beating yourself up and thinking that somehow you should be more, do more, be better, and you don’t measure up in your own mind? After more than three decades of working as...
    Read more
  • Post-Romantic Stress
    Post-Romantic Stress
    What did you learn about love in childhood? With Valentine's Day approaching, the topic of love is hot stuff. Will you be my Valentine? Will we love 'til death do us part? Is unconditional love even possible in romantic relationships? Did I learn how to love in...
    Read more
  • dr karyl mcbride
    Katie Hafner Interviews Dr. Karyl McBride
    Katie Hafner, author of her memoir, Mother Daughter Me and reporter for The New York Times interviewed Dr. Karyl McBride about her pioneering work on maternal narcissism titled: Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. Katie Hafner: You write very...
    Read more
  • Cope with holiday expectations
    Do Holiday Expectations Cause You Angst? 12 Ways to Help
    The holidays are not a magical wand to transform families. Holiday expectations can get us in trouble during the holiday season. Why is it that we somehow still hang onto the vision that we can suddenly transform the family into what we want during the...
    Read more
  • Tama Kieves
    Interview with Tama Kieves author of Inspired & Unstoppable
    Here is a recap of Dr. Karyl McBride's interview with Tama Kieves author of Inspired & Unstoppable on Facebook, Monday, December 2nd. Dr. Karyl McBride: The age ole question: why did you write this book? What was your inspiration? Tama Kieves: I wrote the book I...
    Read more
  • Keith Campbell
    Online with Dr. Karyl McBride: Interview With Keith Campbell
    Here is a recap of Dr. Karyl McBride's interview with Keith Campbell, co-author of The Narcissism Epidemic on Facebook, Monday, November 18th. Dr. Karyl McBride: Here’s the ole standard question: Why did you and Dr. Twenge decide to write this book? What was your inspiration for...
    Read more
  • Where was Daddy?
    Where was Daddy?
    If you had a narcissistic mother, did your father protect you? The family with a narcissistic mother operates according to an unspoken set of rules. Children learn to live with those rules, but they never stop being confused and pained by them, for these rules...
    Read more
  • Kristin Neff
    Online with Dr. Karyl McBride: Interview With Kristin Neff, Ph.D.
    Here is a recap of Dr. Karyl McBride's interview with author, Kristin Neff, Ph.D. on Facebook, Monday, November 11th. Dr. Karyl McBride: Kristin, I love your book, Self-Compassion…and recommend it often to clients. What caused your interest in this topic and inspired you to write the...
    Read more
  • Koren Zailckas
    Online with Dr. Karyl McBride: Interview With Koren Zailckas
    Here is a recap of Dr. Karyl McBride's interview with author, Koren Zailckas on Facebook, Monday, November 4th. Dr. Karyl McBride: Your book is a novel, titled: Mother, Mother. It is an exploration of narcissism in a family where the narcissistic mother who claims to love...
    Read more
  • Do you attract narcissistic friends?
    Do You Attract Narcissists as Friends?
    How can I tell if my friend is a narcissist? I recently got an email from a lovely woman saying she feels she repeats the dynamic she had with her narcissistic mother in her choice of friends. She says she befriends narcissistic women, who then,...
    Read more
  • Katie Hafner
    Online with Dr. Karyl McBride: Interview with Katie Hafner
    Here is a recap of Dr. Karyl McBride's interview with author, Katie Hafner on Facebook, Monday, October 28th. Dr. Karyl McBride: What made you decide to write this beautiful memoir? Was it a hard decision? I assume your mother is still alive? Katie Hafner: First, thanks...
    Read more
  • Mothers Who Are Jealous of Their Daughters
    Mothers Who Are Jealous of Their Daughters
    A mother’s jealousy distorts a daughter’s normal development When I was writing the book Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, I found that I heard certain kinds of painful stories over and over again, like themes in a piece...
    Read more
  • Narcissists Are Not Accountable
    Narcissists Are Not Accountable
    Who me? I didn’t do it! Lack of accountability is a pet peeve for sure, and also a common problem with narcissists. Although there are many disturbing factors in the personality of a narcissist, this one is tough to deal with in any relationship. It’s...
    Read more
  • Plant Both Feet In Relationships!
    Plant Both Feet In Relationships!
    Do you struggle with trust or commitment in a relationship? Sound familiar? The concept of repetition compulsion comes from psychoanalytic theory. It means repeating patterns in relationships that are similar to unconscious aspects of a childhood relationship or experience. But one would ask, why do that?...
    Read more
  • When Mothers Day Hurts
    When Mothers Day Hurts
    Cultural expectations about Mothers Day and motherhood can open up wounds. Nobody wants to be a "Debbie Downer" on Mothers Day. Its a blessed and sacred institution and should be. Truly, what is more amazing than giving birth to gorgeous little ones and watching them grow, develop...
    Read more
  • Therapist Training Virtual Workshop Now Online!
    Therapist Training Virtual Workshop Now Online!
    We are pleased to announce that we have launched the virtual online training course. Included with this training is the opportunity to earn 12 CE credits for your licensing requirements. After you take the course, you will be directed to Cassidy Seminars where you can...
    Read more
  • Are You Worried You Might Be A Narcissistic Parent?
    Are You Worried You Might Be A Narcissistic Parent?
    Am I a narcissistic parent? Am I passing narcissism on to my children? What is the cornerstone of maternal or paternal narcissism? Do you worry you might be a narcissistic parent? Most of us with children hold the value that we would never consciously do anything...
    Read more
  • Are you in relationship with a narcissist?
    Will I Ever Be Good Enough?
    Are you in relationship with a narcissist? Adult children of narcissistic parents commonly grow up with this nagging feeling that they flunked childhood and it’s all their fault. They internalize the message they are not good enough no matter how hard they try.  While everyone...
    Read more
  • Happy New Year From The Office of Dr. McBride
    Happy New Year From The Office of Dr. McBride
    Let’s do recovery for New Year’s Gifts and Resolutions! Give to yourself and others you care about. We want you to join us in 2013! This is the time to kick-start your own recovery work and continue the five-step program by signing up for the...
    Read more
  • Happy Holidays!
    Happy Holidays!
    Cheers and blessings to our friends, family, readers and colleagues for a healthy and abundant holiday season. May it be filled will all the love you can muster up and give away in generous portions. Will I Be Good Enough For Santa? You Better Not...
    Read more
  • Dr. McBride Called as an Expert on Dr. Phil Show
    Dr. McBride Called as an Expert on Dr. Phil Show
    We are excited to announce that the Dr. Phil Show has done an important segment this fall on maternal narcissism. We are so grateful that Dr. Phil is airing this important show so that more women and girls are aware of this insidious disorder. The...
    Read more