Four Rules of the Narcissistic Family

Common Themes to Overcome in Adulthood

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There are spoken and unspoken rules that govern the narcissistic family. A narcissistic family is one where the family is led by a narcissistic parent. Every member of the family knows the rules even if they are never openly expressed. Abiding by these demanding directives, the non-narcissistic family members often forgo their own good judgment or their own needs. The net result is that the narcissistic family code stifles individual psychological and emotional development. Although there are other dynamics, and each family is unique, the following four rules are found to be common themes.

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