Do You Have a Narcissistic Mother?

(Check all those that apply to your relationship with your mother)

• When you discuss your life issues with your mother, does she divert the discussion to talk about herself?
• When you discuss your feelings with your mother, does she try to top the feeling with her own?
• Does your mother act jealous of you?
• Does your mother lack empathy for your feelings?
• Does your mother only support those things you do that reflect on her as a “good mother"?
• Have you consistently felt a lack of emotional closeness with your mother?
• Have you consistently questioned whether or not your mother likes you or loves you?
• Does your mother only do things for you when others can see?
• When something happens in your life (accident, illness, divorce) does your mother react with how it will affect her rather than how you feel?
• Is or was your mother overly conscious of what others think (neighbors, friends, family, co-workers)?
• Does your mother deny her own feelings?
• Does your mother blame things on you or others rather than own responsibility for her feelings or actions?
• Is or was your mother hurt easily and then carried a grudge for a long time without resolving the problem?
• Do you feel you were a slave to your mother?
• Do you feel you were responsible for your mother’s ailments or sickness (headaches, stress, illness)?
• Did you have to take care of your mother’s physical needs as a child?
• Do you feel unaccepted by your mother?
• Do you feel your mother was critical of you?
• Do you feel helpless in the presence of your mother?
• Are you shamed often by your mother?
• Do you feel your mother knows the real you?
• Does your mother act like the world should revolve around her?
• Do you find it difficult to be a separate person from your mother?
• Does your mother appear phony to you?
• Does your mother want to control your choices?
• Does your mother swing from egotistical to a depressed mood?
• Did you feel you had to take care of your mother’s emotional needs as a child?
• Do you feel manipulated in the presence of your mother?
• Do you feel valued by mother for what you do rather than who you are?
• Is your mother controlling, acting like a victim or martyr?
• Does your mother make you act different from how you really feel?
• Does your mother compete with you?
• Does your mother always have to have things her way?