Narcissists may use their anger or rage as a way to control others.
We all get angry at times, and some of us may even spout off occasionally in a fit of rage. We’re human and not perfect. Most emotionally healthy people, however, are accountable for this behavior and feel remorse, apologize, and try to make amends. Think of a time you may have lost your temper and then felt bad about it and made every attempt to make the situation better. In doing so, you were acknowledging how your behavior may have affected another person; you were able to put yourself in their shoes and empathize.
Narcissists, or people with a high level of narcissistic traits, can’t usually empathize or tune in emotionally to others. In fact, they often use their anger or rage as a way to control others. When confronted with their behavior, rather than being accountable and apologetic, they get angrier and up the ante until the other person gives up or backs down.
