Will The Drama Ever End?

Untangling and Healing from the Harmful Effects of Parental Narcissism

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Author of the bestseller, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers and Will I Ever Be Free of You, How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist and Heal Your Family, has released this new book.

In her own words, Dr. Karyl McBride explains the importance and information about the new release: Will the Drama Ever End? Untangling and Healing from the Harmful Effects of Parental Narcissism is written for the millions of adults from all over the world who grew up with a narcissistic mother or father and who want to understand the dynamics of the narcissistic family and move beyond the emotional injuries of the past.

I refer to a household dominated by one or more narcissistic parents as a narcissistic family, one in which a parent monopolizes the power by subtly and artfully denying the other members, especially the children, their personal power, integrity, and potential. Narcissism is a spectrum disorder, meaning an individual can exhibit characteristic behaviors that are anywhere from mild to extreme. This means it exists on a continuum ranging from a few narcissistic traits to the full-blown narcissistic personality disorder. As you go further along the spectrum of narcissism, you encounter more problems. With that said, personal interactions usually lead to some degree of diminishment for those who are in a relationship with the narcissist.

The mantra of the narcissistic family is that parental needs come before the child’s needs. So, this book is written for those who have grown up in the lonely shadow of the narcissistic parent. The book focuses on the dynamics of this kind of dysfunctional family, the effects it has on all the members, and then gives you my enhanced five-step recovery model to help find the path toward ending the cycle of family trauma and rebuild psychological and emotional health.

The book is divided into three parts. In Part One: The Narcissistic Family, you will gain a deeper understanding of: the dynamics of a narcissistic family system; how meaningful communication is hijacked; the confusion caused by spoken and unspoken family rules; why your needs didn’t matter and therefore weren’t met; why you are not as close to your siblings as you hoped to be; and why your family remains confusing to you.

In Part Two: The Impact of Narcissistic Parenting, I’ll explain how narcissistic parenting inhibits a child’s self-expression and ability to trust in oneself and others. You’ll discover: why emotional development is delayed in a narcissistic family; why there is an absence of trust; why your sense of self-worth is impaired; and why complex trauma is the legacy of growing up in a narcissistic family.

And finally, in Part Three: Healing and Breaking Free, I’ll provide a proven five-step roadmap for recovery so you can learn where to go from here, and finally be able to untangle and break free and find your authentic self.

Reader Reviews

“Since yesterday, I have had your book ‘Will the Drama Ever End?’ at home, and the moment I opened it, I burst into tears of recognition. I am a 47-year-old woman, and suddenly so much in my life makes sense. Every chapter applies to my family.” – Anonymous

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“This is important, please take a second to read it: this book and this author will answer every question you might have about parents and narcissism. I have been reading and learning about narcissism since 2013, when I had a relative who was diagnosed. Of everything I have read from manuals written by some of the best doctors and others in the field to others who have written about it in their families and so forth, this book is the one that taught it all and made it all sink and come together. This book and this very empathetic author are what made all of it come to life, made me realize what I had been trying to feel and realize for years. This book is the one that made me realize that it was time to move on and just know it wasn’t me and that I had been abused and left for nothing. Made me realize that they had never loved me and never would and that I was worth much more than that. This author is the one who can come across our lines of defense and make us realize what we had and what we did not have. She is empathic to it all and with very kind and loving ways she brings it all out in the open. Please, if you are suffering or just want to know more about this horrible personality disorder please read this book, I beg you to put this one first and not last as I have. You will save a lot of time and find what you are looking for here. I now wish all of you to find your answers right here and right now….. I wish you all the best…” -Anonymous

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“It is the best book I have read on parental narcissism, and I have read a lot on the topic. Reading her book is super validating, educational, and hopeful. Worth every penny! It is a book for survivors as well as therapists who want to help their patients.” -Anonymous

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“I highly recommend this book and author if you are an empath … I wasn’t aware until reading her books that I need to untangle and heal from my childhood.” -Anonymous

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“This is a great audiobook for understanding the different types of damaging effects of narcissistic parents. I’ve recommended the book to other therapists working with clients with narcissistic/emotionally immature parents. Especially since the author shares some of her own experiences, it comes across as authentic, informed, and not laden with clinical jargon. I highly recommend this book for anyone wanting to understand the devastating effects of narcissistic parents.” -Anonymous

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“As the non-narc parent, this was a very tough read, but a necessary one to further understand what my children experienced growing up in a very toxic home with a covert narcissistic dad. I highly recommend this book to both adult children of narcissists as well as the spouses of these narcissists.” -Anonymous

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“Heard the author interviewed on PBS. Glad I bought the book. Great description and examples of narcissistic behaviors, that provide enlightenment, understanding and revelatory awareness. Key Section: Part 3 provides how to manage and deal with narcissism. I wish I had read this years ago to manage family, coworkers, and bosses. Will share with friends and family.” -Anonymous

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“Having a narcissistic parent is a gut-wrenching experience. Nothing makes sense and everything revolves around the narcissistic parent. Personally, I felt a need to be “perfect” and not make a mistake, so I wouldn’t be criticized. This took many years to heal from and still impacts me. I found this book to be relatable, healing, and empowering! There IS a process to heal from parental narcissism, and Dr. McBride shows you the way!” -Anonymous

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“Very helpful for my stepchildren.” -Anonymous

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“Reading this book is like nothing else I’ve encountered — completely uncanny how incisively it describes what I have experienced. It has unlocked a much deeper understanding of the distressing dynamics in families with a narcissistic parent.” -Anonymous

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“**Many thanks to NetGalley, Atria, and Karyl McBride for an ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review!**
Karyl McBride’s body of work as a therapist centers around narcissism, and rather than a focus on how this plays in romantic relationships or the dynamic of a mother-daughter relationship involving a narcissist parent, Will the Drama Ever End? is a more comprehensive look at both the narcissistic dynamic and how those affected can heal from the associated trauma.
McBride divides the book into three segments: the first deals with the Narcissistic Family as a whole, the second explores the impact of Narcissistic Parenting, and the third serves as the 5 step ‘toolkit’ for recovery. McBride’s writing is clear and accessible, and you don’t necessarily need any familiarity with narcissism or its implications to be able to jump into exploring the dynamics. She provides just enough background for those unfamiliar with the disorder to get up to speed quickly and learn the ‘rules’ that keep a family acquiescing to a narcissist….
…Part three is where the meat and potatoes of this particular book lies, and McBride does present a fairly comprehensive guide on a 5-step healing process. There are plenty of behavioral exercises as well as helpful prompts for journaling to get you from A to B, however long that process takes (McBride advises to truly take your time and revisit steps if necessary). While I do think this section was beneficial overall and had some great tips, in some ways I think this might have functioned better on its own, as a workbook. In this way, it could probably have served as a companion piece to ANY of McBride’s books about narcissism and would also be a handy tool for in person therapy as well.
This is a very accessible, honest, focused, and empathetic book certain to help anyone who has suffered emotional damage at the hands of a narcissist: I would definitely recommend to anyone who could benefit from these thoughtful and compassionate words!” -Anonymous

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“Almost everything touched on so far I was able to relate to in my family.
It is answering questions and I a few I had never thought of!
It sure opened up things I never saw as being manipulated. Lots of ah ha moments.
I’ve have found many aspects of what was going on in my house for many years
which I wasn’t even aware of. Nothing like getting your head on straight at 70!
But they do say better late than never. Thank you, Dr. Karyl McBride!” -Anonymous

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“Fab book. Thought I was too old for this book (in my 50s’s) turns out loads of the case studies were mature. This has made a real difference.” -Anonymous

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“I’ve read literally hundreds of marvelous self-healing books, including many recommended books on narcissistic abuse. What makes McBride’s book stand out is her questions for journalling. I thought I’d written enough over the decades, but some of the questions really made me go deeper –like deep sea diving, only within.
I read the book slowly, as she suggests, and then came back to Part 3, where I’ll go through the steps, writing, once again, in my journal.
I know it’s worth it. In fact, we were reading a rather dark book in my reading group (Wuthering Heights), which normally would’ve triggered me, and I felt a deep calmness that I’ve never felt before. I mean, I could look at the abuse, without getting caught up in it, and feeling upset. That’s a real achievement for me, especially as an empath. Thank you, Karyl McBride!” -Anonymous

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Professional Reviews

Will the Drama Ever End? is the essential guide for those seeking to make sense of their experience growing up in a family in which one or more narcissistic parents dominate. Dr. McBride wonderfully captures the dynamics of the narcissistic family and the impact on those within the family system through clear explanation and countless case examples. She then thoughtfully walks readers through the steps they can take to heal and live life more fully.”

– Sharone Weltfreid, Ph.D., Licensed Clinical Psychologist

“As a family systems therapist, I have long been both troubled and intrigued by the unique dynamics found in the families of narcissists. Dr. McBride has condensed an enormous amount of scientific data into a very usable and effective approach to healing. She makes the overwhelming journey to wholeness manageable by unveiling what is broken, explaining how that affects children and then, what can be done to not continue this damaging legacy.

Will the Drama Ever End? is an eye and heart opening book. In narcissistic families there is no safe place. Siblings are pitted against each other even after leaving home. Adults who should be protective instead turn blind eyes to the cruelty and isolation their offspring endure. The foundation for trust is systematically destroyed in such families. That our clients have the courage to hope, to love, and to recover fills me with endless admiration. They deserve truth and the restoration that flows from that.”

– Elaine Jackson, LLPC, LMFT

“Will the Drama Ever End? speaks to the often-hidden trauma, fears and effects of narcissistic abuse survivors. It helps the reader understand why they feel a certain way and why relationships can be affected. Healing is an active process and is made possible by following the five-step recovery model that Dr. McBride presents. This compassionate and hopeful book will take the reader on the healing journey and onward to getting a healthy life well-deserved. Thank you to Dr. McBride for shining light in some of the darkest of things!”

– Malissa Veroni BA, MSW, RSW, DCA (Alberta) – Founder and lead Therapist at Keep’N It Real Solutions

“Dr. McBride provides the most up-to-date, comprehensive description of the effects of a narcissistic parent on (not only) children, but all members of the family. Her clear, concise examples are engaging and demonstrate the emotionally damaging effects of this type of parenting. Dr. McBride’s evaluation and treatment approach are comprehensive and effective. A must read for clinicians working with clients affected by narcissistic parents. I don’t know anyone who couldn’t benefit from understanding the narcissistic influences in their lives through this revealing lens.”

– Renee Richker, M.D., child and adolescent psychiatrist

“From the bestselling author and renowned expert on Parental Narcissism, Karyl McBride brings another rich and robust body of work to our resource library. For anyone who is looking to capture a deeper understanding of narcissism and the narcissistic parent, the impact of narcissistic parenting on a child’s emotional experience and development, along with a clear and thoughtful ‘roadmap for recovery’ – Will the Drama Ever End? is a must-read!”

– Wendy Behary, Author/Expert, Disarming the Narcissist

“In “Will the Drama Ever End?,” Dr. McBride has written an outstanding book directed at children of narcissistic parents. I have followed Dr. McBride’s work for years – she has been in the trenches dealing with parental narcissism in therapy and legal settings – and her insights are sorely needed. I know from my academic work the damage that narcissistic parents can cause. My hope is that this book will validate the experience that many children of narcissistic parents have and help these adult children move outside the narcissists’ psychological control and into a place that allows growth and deep connection with others.”

– W. Keith Campbell, author of The New Science of Narcissism

“Will the Drama Ever End? This book makes so much sense that everyone should read it! Children of narcissistic parents are struggling everywhere, and this book explains why. Adult children of narcissistic parents often don’t understand themselves, their relationships, or role in the world, but this book will set you free. McBride skillfully breaks down the crazy-making family dynamics and their potential life-time impact on the children with numerous relatable examples. Her successful five-step roadmap for recovery is based on her many years of experience as a therapist, as well as her own experience. Reading this book feels like a warm and understanding hug!”

– Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, lead author of Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder and developer of the New Ways for Families® parent skills training method.

“I found Dr. McBride when I was researching background for my novel featuring a dysfunctional family based on a narcissistic mother’s neglect of her daughter, Grace. As I listened to her audiobook, Will I Ever Be Good Enough?, I was relieved and validated that my story of Grace could be one of her cases, and happy to raise awareness of these situations. And now, Dr. McBride’s new book, Will the Drama Ever End?, offers a handbook to those who have suffered the effects of narcissism to help them identify the trauma, reassure them of their sanity and guide them forward to heal and break free of the abuse. Brava! A welcome companion book from a brilliant therapist!”

– Maren Cooper, author of Finding Grace and A Better Next

“Will the Drama Ever End? is an important resource written by an expert in the field. This will assist our clients and clinicians in understanding the entire picture of narcissistic family dynamics. The abundance of real-life examples is so valuable and relatable to the reader, so they are not alone in their confusion. Dr. McBride’s 5-step recovery program provides hope and empowerment for recovery.

– Allison Brittsan, MA, LPC, Psychotherapist

“Will the Drama Ever End? speaks to the importance of child advocacy whether you are a child, adolescent, or adult working with your inner wounded child. Not only does the book layout the dynamics of the narcissistic family, but it offers a compassionate 5-step recovery model for healing and transformation. McBride offers many relatable examples to help the reader understand the complexity of this kind of dysfunctional family. As a mental health provider, I will be recommending this book to my clients, colleagues, friends, and family. I am excited to share this work that reflects the importance of tuning into children’s needs and wellbeing. I not only like this book, but I love it!”

– Kate Alexander, LCSW, child and adolescent psychotherapist

“Dr. McBride is a founder in this field, and this book is an excellent resource for people in narcissistic family systems. It gently confronts the reality and the questions that many who grow up in this toxic and confusing environment come to therapy to explore. Dr. McBride brings up sensitive issues throughout this book and provides beautiful journaling prompts to expand an individual’s own understanding of content. I look forward to adding this book to my recommended reading for my clients”

– Amy Kempe, MS, NCC, LPC, CSAT, Therapist (CLIMB Health and Wellness) and Author

“Dr. McBride has created a thorough, accessible and compassionate guide to those struggling to break free of the negative cycles present in a narcissistic family. In compelling prose packed with relevant examples, Will The Drama Ever End? will help survivors of toxic families and the therapists who care for them recognize the hallmarks of a narcissistic family, understand the detrimental effects that this upbringing has on present-day life, and take actionable steps towards healing and thriving. Validating, relevant, and useful, this book will become a much-referenced classic in the field.”

– Lia Prusha, LMFT: psychotherapist, writer, and survivor.

“Will the Drama Ever End? is an insightful book that helps readers better understand and heal from the toxic effects of being raised within a narcissistic family system. Dr. McBride thoroughly describes the narcissistic family, and the different roles family members take on and the different dynamics that play out. She provides ways for the reader to overcome self-doubt, learn to trust, build a strong sense of self and individuate. I enjoyed reading and amazing job!”

– Pam Snyder, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, ACT

“Healing from growing up with a narcissistic parent is a tricky business. For those who have the courage to open their eyes and do the work to heal, McBride is a wise guide. Based on years of clinical experience, she lays out the healing process step by step. Her book offers a breadth of understanding not found elsewhere, particularly in how the wounds of childhood get repeated in adulthood with siblings, partners, and friends. She teaches us how to think about our issues, and how to re-parent ourselves so that we don’t repeat the mistakes of the past. This is a book all therapists and clients should read – and then reread — to absorb its insights.”

– Catherine Hartshorn, Ph.D., LCSW, LMFT

“Dr. Karyl McBride’s latest book, Will the Drama Ever End? provides a detailed, easy-to-follow guidebook for understanding, and breaking free from, the issues that develop from being a part of a narcissistic family dynamic. She addresses struggles with the narcissistic parent, the enabling parent, siblings, and being an only child. McBride shares her extensive clinical experience and numerous therapeutic exercises to help the reader address the heavy toll of this dysfunctional family system. The book provides tools to help with issues of self-esteem, trust, guilt, shame, fear, boundaries, parenting, and more. She also addresses the tendency to get into romantic partnerships and friendships that replicate the distorted love and communication patterns first established within the family, and how to have healthier relationships. The case studies throughout the book bring the concepts to life and are so relatable that readers may feel like McBride is describing them and their family. I’ve seen firsthand in my private practice how Dr. McBride’s Five Step Recovery Model offers practical, effective strategies for helping clients work through this form of complex trauma and end the drama of this type of intergenerational trauma. I recommend this book for the general public, clients, and mental health professionals.”

– Kalpana Murthy, LPC, LCMHC, Certified EMDR Therapist